People have gone for online dating like a duck goes for water…because it works…or, at the least, it can work. Women are, generally, terrified of meeting a man that she has been chatting with online. Totally they’ve heard about are the scary things that can happen…and, I must say, they’ve correctly to be careful to the extreme. That’s not only wise but vital. So what’s a nice guy disturbance? You aren’t a pervert, nonsexual predator, or a weirdo. You’re just a nice guy looking to “the” girl for you.
You must be patient. Don’t press her for personal information like her real name or where she lives. Keep your conversations light and fun until she feels comfortable talking with you online. Don’t try to rush her into meeting face-to-face. She will think you’re desperate or a pervert. Patience. Patience. Patience.
Be absolutely honest about your physical appearance and job. A good relationship has never been, and will never be, built upon belongs. Eventually she will catch out the truth anyway and there you’re back at square one.
A picture really is worth one thousand words. Post many pictures of yourself doing your everyday activities and make them full body shots, not just head shots. If you were dating a girl in the real life she wouldn’t just see your head.
Once the discussion has been opened about meeting face-to-face for the first time, suggest that you meet in a very public place, during daylight hours and that she bring a friend with her. After all, you have nothing to hide. You’ve told her the truth about yourself and she is already seen many pictures of you. The only thing left is to make her feel safe meeting you.
